Weird night...

Started by SirAndrewD, January 13, 2019, 01:33:38 AM

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SirAndrewD

So I just learned my Dad is dying from cancer. 

Just now.  Weirdly from his wife's facebook post, she friended me so I'd see it. 

He and I talk weekly, so I'm shocked I hadn't heard it. 

I lost my mother at 22 to the same thing. 

So...well...this is an odd night. 

I'm surprised at how little horror or upset or breakdown I'm feeling.  It was sudden, it was just weird.

And I've been through it before. 

I'm sure it'll be worse tomorrow, and then worse again.

But tonight...

You all are good friends and companions.  I know it's just a message board.  But...I don't know.

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88mmkwk

So sorry to hear the sad news.  Losing a parent is an emotionally challenging time regardless of the relationship status.

My father and I had not had a close relationship, yet getting the call from a hospital staff member informing me that he had passed (I had not known he was in the hospital) was traumatizing for me.  I sympathize with the flood of emotions you must be feeling right now.

My kindest thoughts and prayers for you as you work through a tough time......
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Cancer is a bad, mean, evil, thing.  So sorry to hear it has come to your family.  I pray you and your family will find peace.
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SirAndrewD

Quote from: MetalDog on January 13, 2019, 02:54:15 AM
Cancer is a bad, mean, evil, thing.  So sorry to hear it has come to your family.  I pray you and your family will find peace.

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The first time almost ended me.
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SirAndrewD

Can't sleep.  Thanks for the well wishes.
"These men do not want a happy ship. They are deeply sick and try to compensate by making me feel miserable. Last week was my birthday. Nobody even said "happy birthday" to me. Someday this tape will be played and then they'll feel sorry."  - Sgt. Pinback

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SirAndrewD I'm sorry to hear the news.

We are all here for you so please lean on us anytime you need it.
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Quote from: SirAndrewD on January 13, 2019, 01:33:38 AM
So I just learned my Dad is dying from cancer. 

Just now.  Weirdly from his wife's facebook post, she friended me so I'd see it. 

He and I talk weekly, so I'm shocked I hadn't heard it. 

I lost my mother at 22 to the same thing. 

So...well...this is an odd night. 

I'm surprised at how little horror or upset or breakdown I'm feeling.  It was sudden, it was just weird.

And I've been through it before. 

I'm sure it'll be worse tomorrow, and then worse again.

But tonight...

You all are good friends and companions.  I know it's just a message board.  But...I don't know.

Sorry to hear that.  I lost both of my parents to the same thing and had something similar to you as the circumstances of finding out.  My mother never told me, I happened to be going into a doctor's office for some testing when I ran into her coming out of the cancer clinic.  What really made it weird is that was the first time I was ever at that office and I rarely ever go to a doctor.....but it happened that day.  That day she told us she had 6-months to live and she ended up passing away exactly six months from that day I ran into her.  Strange things happen for a reason I guess.

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Sorry to hear that, SirAndrewD.  :(
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Man....not what I was expecting to read when I clicked on this topic.

Really sorry to see this news, SirAndrewD. We'll be praying for the best, and for you and your family.

We're all here for you.

Hang in there, bud.  :-[
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So sorry to hear about your dad :(

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SirAndrewD, this so hard and so sad.
It can take time to work through a parent's death.  Sometimes a long period of mourning. 
Everyone handles this in their own way.  We are all part of your support group.
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I'm sorry about the sad news.  I will keep your family in my prayers.

My wife and I have lost our parents.  It is always hard regardless of the circumstances.

Tpek

Really sorry to hear this. :(

Be strong buddy.

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Sorry to hear that, SirAndrewD.

Not sure what to say about the whole Facebook thing.  That seems like a hell of a way to break what is sure to be traumatizing news. 
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